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Standing firm in favor of traditional gendered language

4/2/2022

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Do you remember the first time you heard or saw somebody say not to use gendered pronouns? Wait, what? It was a confusing thing to see, but you maybe shook your head and brushed it off as that one person being a bit far out there. And then you heard it more and more. You started to see she/her listed in bios and emails. What? And then it became a growing topic on social media. Eventually it made the news and became somewhat mainstream. It’s infiltrated some schools now. At some point, there was a shift from people using inclusive language to people banning traditional gendered language. I first saw it in Facebook groups for women’s health. It was jolting and bizarre. Then in another group and another group. Then entire groups banned the use of words like women, mother, breastfeeding….in groups for women’s health. As a doula, I couldn’t wrap my head around this. These are the words we’ve used our entire lives. Since when are they offensive? Where is this coming from? It hasn’t been around that long and now the language we’ve used for thousands of years has been banned in some places.
 
What do you do when you’re presented with this issue?
 
You want to respect people. You want to be kind. You want to avoid arguments. Kindness can be hard when people on social media are angry and hateful. How do you handle it when someone tells you to change your language? Let’s talk about a couple different approaches.
 
While some choose to use the alternative terms and do not push their views on others, it has become commonplace for people to correct another person’s language or tell them they need to change it. What do you do when someone confronts you about your use of traditional language?
 
1: Refuse to be baited.
You don’t have to respond. You can carry on with the language you use. Be confident. The social media language police are not your people, not your village, and not people you are required to have this conversation with.
 
2: Disconnect from spaces that don’t align with your values.
Leave those groups. Consider your friendship with those people. Who do you want to be connected with? Clear up your surroundings.
 
3: Stand firm.
Wishy washy is nothing worth respecting. Apologizing is weak. I can respect a person I completely disagree with if they are genuine in their views. Be straightforward with what you stand for. You don’t have to give an explanation. It’s not up to anyone else to validate. You can say “I use traditional gendered language.” or “I use biblical language.” or “I don’t believe in using alternative language.” If you need to, be straightforward and say “I will not be changing the language I personally choose.” Perhaps, throw in your rights “I have the right to free speech in America and you do not have the right to dictate what I can and can’t say.” Let go of wanting people to like you. Be authentic to who you are and what you believe.
 
4: If necessary, point out any behavior that is aggressive or inappropriate.
  • “I see this is something you feel strongly about. Many of us do. However, you’re being aggressive and disrespectful.”
  • “I’m ending the conversation here because you are unable to speak in a civil manner.”
  • “Your behavior is inappropriate. The way you’re talking to people that view things differently than you says a lot about your character.”
  • “Being hateful towards people that view things differently than you is hardly an effective way to be inclusive of all people.”
  • “You’re exploding your emotions on people who have different religious beliefs than you. It’s not appropriate to try to change someone else’s deeply held beliefs to match yours. You need to respect the diversity of people.”
 
5: From time to time, we find ourselves dealing with a particularly explosive person who is angry and doesn’t control their emotions well. If you are in person with this confrontation, walk away. Document it if you need to. If this is taking place on social media, you can ignore the attacks. You also have the option of asking them some direct questions.
  • Do you realize you are trying to control people by insisting they use the language you prefer? How is that different than someone telling you that you have to use traditional language and accept it?
  • Do you respect people that hold traditional views?
  • Do you think people who follows religions such as Christianity or Judaism or Islam have the right to practice their religious beliefs on gender? Does that include using the language practiced in their religions?
  • Do you find it appropriate to pressure people to violate their religious beliefs or lifestyles?
  • Do you think everyone should have to use gender neutral language unless an individual specifies a gender?
  • Are you willing to be inclusive of people that are different than you? Doesn’t being inclusive of all include conservatives?
  • What are your goals with this conversation?
  • How do you see your behavior right now?
 
Speak gently. Stand firm. Stand with God. Don’t let today’s controversial issues hinder your walk with Jesus or your boldness to represent your faith. It’s really that simple. Refuse to partake in the push to erase gendered pronouns. Carry on speaking the language you always have. Let go of fear. Hold on to faith. Be confident. Carry on.

 
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Leanna Mae is a small-town Ohio girl who loves to write. She’s the author of several nonfiction paperback books: Happily Frugal, The Subject of Salvation, and Lessons on the Author Life. She has also written many blogs, and focuses on sharing her faith through blogging. Her heart's desire is to reach the world with the message of her faith through her website. Leanna is a devout Christian, Apostolic Pentecostal. Her degree is in health sciences. Leanna Mae is an author, women's health educator, and birth doula. She’s passionate about Jesus, her faith, writing, and teaching. She is also passionate about patient rights, healthcare ethics, and women’s health. You can learn more about Leanna Mae, her books, blogs, and services by exploring www.LeannaMae.org


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