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Starlight bereavement support

Dayton, Ohio and surrounding areas

Support for perinatal and infant loss

Miscarriage (or any loss before 20 weeks), stillbirth, infant death
bereavement doulas are there to help

Serving Dayton, Ohio
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What is a bereavement doula?

A bereavement doula supports families through the death of a loved one. I am a perinatal and infant loss doula. I support families who are going through the process of miscarriage, stillbirth, and neonatal death. That support can be before, during, and after. This is very similar to birth doula services. It is a support role. It’s a non-clinical role. Doulas don’t provide medical care. We work alongside your care team. When birth and death come intertwined, we still provide all the same birth support. We also can help with teaching families about their options, keepsakes and mementos, ink prints, clay prints, and take photos for the family. Though we are not counselors and do not replace professional counseling, we have the privilege of being at the bedside in the hospital or in the home with the mother during those early days. We validate and teach about the grief process and help families get connected to local resources for bereavement.

Why I became a bereavement doula

Many bereavement doulas became a bereavement doula because of their own personal experience with the loss of a child. They may or may not have already been a birth doula. I want to be gently and fully transparent in the fact that I am not a loss mom. If you would be more comfortable with being supported by someone who is a mother that has walked that path, I completely understand and can refer you to other bereavement doulas in the Dayton area. For others of us who have become bereavement doulas, we were first birth doulas and realized how necessary it is to receive training in this aspect of women’s health. Birth and death go hand in hand far more than we talk about. I sought training because I wanted to be able to better take care of those families. Any birth doula will have those circumstances cross her path. I initially only took the training as continuing education. I never thought I would offer it as a service on its own. I thought surely it would be too emotional, too sad. And I discovered that I have a heart for supporting people who are grieving; it strikes a similar chord as my heart for mental health and supporting people who are dealing with anxiety or depression. I’ve always found it deeply fulfilling to support mental health. Why should dealing with death be too taboo to include in that? God calls people to all areas of healthcare. That includes end of life care. We never talk about that. We never talked about death when I did my first doula training. We never talked about it in college – I mean really talked about it. My degree is in health sciences. I feel like we talked about a thousand ways people can die and we talked about how to prevent death, but no one mentioned sitting with death. No one taught us how to sit with the dying, how to comfort them, how to help their families, what we can do to include the loved ones, what we can offer in those final hours that families can hold on to. I suppose those of us who are called to healthcare learn from the seasoned ones. We would do better for patients and their families if we who tend to death weren’t afraid to talk about it. It is a deep privilege to be in those rooms. I consider it an honor to be invited to support a family who is facing the loss of their baby. Bereavement support is sacred grounds.

What does bereavement support look like?

Miscarriage or other loss in the first 20 weeks
If you have received the devastating news that there is no heartbeat but you are still pregnant, I can walk you through your options and help you prepare for the delivery. The timing of miscarriage is hard to predict because it can take some time for the body to be ready to birth, but I will do my best to be there during the process if a family wants.
 
Stillbirth   
If you are expecting to give birth soon to your baby who has already passed on, doula services include all the traditional birth doula support as well as bereavement support. If you've already given birth, I can come to the hospital and provide bereavement support even if the family was not a birth doula client.
 
Neonatal death
Sometimes during pregnancy parents find out their baby has a fatal condition. Other times babies are expected to be born healthy, but they are born with serious health issues or perhaps they are born too early. If a mom hasn’t given birth yet, I can provide birth and bereavement doula services. If a baby is already born and time is limited, I can come to the hospital to assist with photos, keepsakes and mementos, and supporting the family at the time of death.
 
If your baby has already passed away and some time has gone by, you may be learning about bereavement doulas after experiencing loss. If you feel like you need to talk to someone, bereavement doulas can still meet with you after even if it’s been months.  
 
As a lactation specialist, I can also help a mother dry up her milk supply or donate her milk.

What to expect

For the sake of safety, I do meet people in public the first time I meet them. If a family is at the hospital or birthing center, I meet them there.
 
If a mother is delivering at home after the second trimester has begun, I do require the presence of a midwife. You can still choose a home birth with a known loss, but a midwife is still needed.
 
If you are reaching out for support after your baby’s death, we can meet one to three times. What we do is give the parents a space to talk about their baby, their pregnancy, their birth experience, their grief experience. I listen. I validate. If you’d like, I can get you connected to peer support. We talk about the grief process. It’s a casual meeting, not too structured. I let the parents lead what they need to talk about and what their needs are at this time in their grief.

Cost

Bereavement services are provided on a donation basis as I am able to serve those families. If you are not able to donate, please do not hesitate to reach out. If you would like to donate, you can do so here.
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Service area

I'm in the southwest corner of Clark County just a few minutes from the Green county line, Montgomery county line, and the Miami county line. It's a highly convenient spot to be able to serve a wide area. I'm only a few minutes from I-70 and just a few more minutes from I-75. My service area is mapped out below. For volunteer bereavement services, I serve the green colored counties. That's Montgomery, Greene, Clark, and Miami.

This includes the following hospitals: Miami Valley Hospital, Upper Valley, Soin, Kettering, Southview, and Mercy in Springfield.

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It is a privilege and an honor to be called to the doula life. There are times the birth room holds joy and celebration. There are other times that the birth room holds pain, trauma, grief, shock, fear, confusion, and anger. I provide doula services for all types of birth. That includes healthy birth and unhealthy and births where babies are only on this earth a short time. That includes full term, preterm, miscarried, and neonatal death. I am here. Doulas are guides in this world of birth, for all outcomes. 
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Coping and Remembrance

Visit the bereavement section of Maternal Infant Wellness Education for general information on perinatal and infant loss, coping and remembrance options, and national resources.


Community Resources
local to Dayton, Ohio

The following are resources local to the Dayton, Ohio area.
If you know of any resources to add to this, please reach out.  
 
Contents:
Hospitals
Bereavement doulas
Photographers for perinatal and infant loss
Funeral homes and crematories
Gardens and places of dedication
Memorial events for babies
Charities
Ministries
Support groups
Mental health care  
 
 
HOSPITALS
 
Hospitals with a maternity unit
 
In the Dayton metro: Kettering, Southview, Soin, Miami Valley, and Miami Valley South
 
Kettering Medical Center
# (937) 298-4331
Address: 3535 Southern Blvd. Kettering, OH 45429
Website: www.KetteringHealth.org/Kettering
 
Southview
# (937) 401-6000
Address: 1997 Miamisburg-Centerville Rd. Centerville, OH 45459 
Website: www.ketteringhealth.org/southview
 
Soin
# (937) 702-4000
Address: 3535 Pentagon Blvd. Beavercreek, OH 45431
Website: www.ketteringhealth.org/soin
 
Miami Valley
# (937) 208-8000
Address: 1 Wyoming St. Dayton, OH 45409
Website: www.miamivalleyhospital.org
 
Miami Valley South
# (937) 438-2400
Address: 2400 Miami Valley Drive Centerville, OH 45459
Website: https://www.miamivalleyhospital.org/Locations/Miami-Valley-Hospital-South/
 
 
In the surrounding areas
 
Atrium Medical Center
# (513) 974-2111
Address: 1 Medical Center Drive Middletown, OH 45005
Website: www.atriummedcenter.org
 
Upper Valley Medical Center
# (937) 440-4000
Address: 3130 N. County Rd. 25-A Troy, OH 45373
Website: www.uvmc.com
 
Springfield Regional Medical Center
# (937) 523-1000
Address: 100 Medical Center Drive Springfield, OH 45504
Website: https://www.mercy.com/locations/hospitals/springfield/springfield-medical-center
 
 
Hospitals with a NICU
 
Kettering has a level 3 NICU.
Miami Valley Hospital has a level 3 NICU.
 
Dayton Children’s Hospital also provides care for infants.
# (937) 641-3000
Address: 1 Children’s Plaza Dayton, OH 45404
www.childrensdayton.org
 
 
 
BEREAVEMENT DOULAS
 
Leanna Mae
Author, educator, birth doula, bereavement doula, and lactation specialist
www.LeannaMae.org
 
 
 
PHOTOGRAPHERS FOR PERINATAL AND INFANT LOSS
 
Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep www.nowilaymedowntosleep.org
Find a photographer: https://www.nowilaymedowntosleep.org/find-photographers/
 
 
 
FUNERAL HOMES AND CREMATORIES
 
Newcomer
www.newcomerdayton.com
They have 3 locations: Dayton, Beavercreek, and Kettering.
Visit their website for your preferred location’s contact info.
 
Morton and Whetstone Funeral Home
www.mortonwhetstonefh.com
139 S. Dixie Drive Vandalia, OH 45377
# (937) 898-4634 
 
Trostel, Chapman, Dunbar, and Fraley
www.richardsraffanddunbar.com
507 W. Jefferson St. New Carlisle, OH 45344
# (937) 845-9477
 
Richards, Raff, and Dunbar
www.richardsraffanddunbar.com
838 E. High St. Springfield, OH 45505
# (937) 325-1564          
 
Littleton and Rue
www.littletonandrue.com
830 N. Limestone St. Springfield, OH 45503
# (937) 323-6439
 
Atkins-Shively Funeral Home
www.shivelyfuneralhomes.com
216 S. Springfield St. St. Paris, OH 43072
# (937) 663-4193
 
 
 
GARDENS AND PLACES OF DEDICATION
 
The Garden of Hope and Remembrance
This memory garden is specific to pregnancy and newborn loss.
Kettering Medical Center
Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/thegardenofhopeandremembrance
 
Southview Serenity Garden
Southview Hospital
http://ketteringhealth.org/foundation/grandviewfoundation/specialevents/garden.cfm
 
HEAL memory garden
Atrium hospital 
https://www.atriummedcenter.org/Spiritual-Care/HEAL-Program/HEAL-Memory-Garden/
 

 
MEMORIAL EVENTS FOR BABIES
 
There are two paver dedication services each year, spring and autumn, at Kettering’s Garden of Hope and Remembrance.
 
October
October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month.
October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day.
Each year on October 15th families light a candle at 7pm in remembrance. This is called the Wave of Light.
 
Atrium’s HEAL program has an annual Walk to Remember in October.
 
December
Atrium does a HEAL memory tree lighting.
Dayton Children’s Hospital has an annual memorial.
 
 
 
CHARITIES
None that I am aware of locally
 
 
 
MINISTRIES
None that I am aware of locally
 
 
 
SUPPORT GROUPS
Atrium’s HEAL program has a HEALing together support group
Time: the third Tuesday of the month from 6 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. 
Location: at the Middletown office of Hilltop Obstetrics & Gynecology, located at Atrium Medical Center
Phone number: (513) 974-4056
Website:
https://www.premierhealth.com/patient-and-visitor-guide/spiritual-support/heal/healing-together-support-groups
 
Silver Linings
Time: 1st and 3rd Thursdays of the month from 6:30-8pm
Location: Miami Valley Women’s Center
2345 W. Stroop Rd. Dayton, OH  
Phone number: # (937) 298-2822
Website: https://womenscenter.org/support-services/infant-loss/
 
 
 
MENTAL HEALTH CARE
 
If you need emergency psychiatric care, please reach out. You can go to any emergency room and seek help.
 
There is a 24/7 crisis care service through Samaritan Behavioral Health including a suicide hotline. (937) 224-4646
They also have a warm line with counselors available 24/7.
 
Montgomery County ADAMHS Board www.mcadamhs.org
 
We are fortunate to have many counseling services and an abundance of mental health care throughout the Dayton area. There are many caring professionals glad to serve the community. Please reach out if you need help. Every grieving family can benefit from mental health care.

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