This is such a hard blog to write because there is no easy way to explain the struggle of anxiety. I’ve had anxiety since childhood. I’m 28 and anxiety is very much a controlling part of my life. The first thing I want to say to you is it’s okay to not be okay. That is the number one thing I wish people would say to me when I’m struggling. It’s okay to not be okay. It drives me crazy when you admit that you’re having a hard time, seek out friends to talk to, and they respond with statements like “You’re okay”, “You’ve got this!”, “You’re doing great.”, “It’s not bad. It’s going good.” Etc… I know they intend to be encouraging, but all that really does it shut me down. If I say I’m not okay right now, don’t tell me I am okay because you can’t handle having a deep talk about it. So for anyone who struggles with anxiety or depression, it’s okay to not be okay sometimes.
That doesn’t mean that you’re not a positive person. Struggling doesn’t make you negative or ungrateful. It makes you human. I feel like there’s a lot of guilt around anxiety. Don’t feel bad about what you’re struggling with. It’s a very legitimate problem that millions of us are affected by. If you’re reading this, I’m going to assume you know the feeling. Anxiety – nonstop worry, sleepless nights, never being able to turn your thoughts off, sick stomach, throwing up, panic, fears, trouble breathing, migraines, another bottle of Tums gone, the anxiety controlling your day, the anxiety consuming you to the point of feeling like there is no escape. Then, on top of all that, feeling bad that you struggle with all this because you’re supposed to do better than this in life. Stop feeling bad about feeling bad! Accepting that you are having anxiety and acknowledging it, at least to yourself, is a big step in managing it. I want to share some ways that help me with anxiety. I hope this is helpful to you.
You can have anxiety and still be an awesome person. This is part of you. It’s not all of you. There is more to you than your struggle. You may be broken, but you’re still beautiful.